We are certainly coping with interesting times these days that call for different ways of living. This especially holds true for those who are timesharing with the other parent. Co-parenting during or after a divorce can be challenging in itself. Couple that with coping with COVID-19 adds enough stress that can derail even the best of timesharing. What are some ways to co-parent and timeshare during this period and why is it so important?
- Keeping the timesharing the same as much as possible. When outside circumstances get our attention especially ones that stressful, it’s easy to focus on what you’re going through and not as much with your children. Imagine how they must be feeling if we as parents are fearful. Work with the other parent to keep this time as normal as possible especially with your timesharing. Children look for consistency during this time and change will contribute to their focus on the pandemic instead of the certainty of being with each parent. That being said, make sure you follow any guidelines or orders from the Court and your state and local governments as it relates to the pandemic and remaining safe.
- Most children are home and many parents are as well. There are many homeschooling opportunities that are happening while the schools remain closed during this time. It’s important for each parent to make sure that the child’s homeschooling is kept current. It’s common for there to be different parenting styles when it comes to homework. During normal times, this can be a source of friction between the parents and needs to be addressed. As the children are being given assignments either online or other ways instead of being in school, both parents need to work together during their timesharing to make sure these assignments are completed and reviewed.
- As children are at home instead of being in school, there are many opportunities for distraction. It’s easy for children to think they’re on vacation during this time which you can’t blame them right? This is a perfect opportunity for parents to spend time during the week with their children in ways that aren’t possible when school is in session. Block out certain times during the day just for fun. I see many parents walking and riding bicycles with their children. These are priceless moments to form lasting memories with our children. The rituals that are created now can be maintained when school is back in session and become new ways of bonding with your child.
Being in this pandemic is stressful with uncertainty for children and especially while during timesharing with the other parent. We can still create a safe environment for them during this time. Working together with the other parent to keep timesharing and co-parenting the same as much as possible will allow our children to move through this time easier and will less stress. Isn’t that what we want for them and us as well? Stay safe and healthy.